魏晋风度: 19招让你更乐观

每个人都希望自己快乐，希望自己快快乐乐面对每一天，贵祥从huffingtonpost看到的文章《19 Ways to be More Optimistic》，希望和大家一起学习，相信对大家会有帮助，让你从今天开始，做一个乐观快乐的人。

你有没有想过，有些人似乎总是看到事情积极乐观的一面。错过航班会成为一次大冒险；错误的方向，却可以指引到让人兴奋不已的地方；错失了一次机会，却能学到新事物；计划外的变动，带来的不是心慌，而是自在的感觉。如此乐观，这般快乐，究竟是如何炼成的？

也许它是像梭罗曾经说过：

"不要只做旁观者，要做有心人！ "〜H.D.梭罗

同样的往往看到的事物的一面。

生活中很多事情都是可以有多种解读的。幸运的是，我们每个人对事情的态度都有100％的控制权，从而或多或少对事情有所控制。考虑到这一点，这里给大家19个小技巧，使你能经常看到美好的方面，从而做个快乐乐观的人。

1.列出让你感到幸福的事

写出（或思考出）你要感谢的事情一份列表，生活中的大小事都可以。为了能真正起到振奋精神，要制定好数目（如100个），之后在你达到目标前，你要记下所有的一切。精神集中时脑子会记得很多！

2.关注细小且意想不到的事情

对一些通常"看不到"的事情，要给予特别关注，例如孩子玩耍时的脸部表情，鸟儿飞过的声音，还有吹过的微风。

3.时刻感谢身边的一切

拥有后要满怀感恩之心，这是一种让你感觉更好、真实而可靠的方法。有时候，人们拥有了某些东西，却还想着其它，但其实在任何特定的时刻，我们都要为自己所拥有的而感到欣慰。

4.帮助他人

帮助别人，能让自己放下自我和个人需求。另外，帮助他人也会引导出我们为他人创造美好世界的动力。研究表明，帮助他人对我们的身心都有很多意想不到的好处。

5.今天就要快乐

这个很简单，只要你做出改变。你得主动地向积极的一面靠拢，对他人友好，多感谢自己，对自己好点。

6.对陌生人微笑（会让两个人都快乐）

微笑也是一种经过时间考验、让人更乐观的方法。即便你一直要伪笑、感觉不到自己在笑，你的大脑也会有好的感觉。人们看到他人对自己笑，也会充满力量。这就是双赢的结果！

7.变消极为积极（换句话说找到积极的一面）

旅行取消了吗？现在有时间去做你一直想要做的家居项目。在野餐的当天下雨吗？找一个创造性的室内野餐地点，也许带一些蜡烛。挑战自己填充这一空白："这种情况的一个好处是______。"

8.读一些积极的新闻

主动寻找一些世界各地积极乐观的新闻，如那些有正面的新闻和积极观点的网站。

9.读令人振奋的语录或故事

社交媒体是擅长于此的。Facebook和Pinterest是充满了有趣的照片。Twitter也有永无止境的积极的＃语录资料流。下载令人振奋的电子书，或从图书馆借阅一本。

10.定一个小目标，然后完成它

选一些简单、快捷且有乐趣的目标，一些小家务也可以成为这样的目标。做一个目标表，每完成一个，就划掉一个，最后就能感受成功感受的冲击！

11.和积极的人呆在一起

围绕乐观的人可以帮助你看到他们所看到的。如消极、积极性反馈本身，创造更多的积极性，并加强我们的世界观。向自己灌输乐观情绪！

12.记住，一切皆是机会

你可以选一个你关注的观点、对一个情况的反映、对人或事的看法，或是其它任何一件事。大改变需要更多的深思熟虑，这些事情就是你的机会。因为，命运在你手中。

13.大笑

大笑是最好的药物！日常看一样小喜剧。这里8种方式欢笑【这周贵祥将翻译，翻译后链接过来，先放原链接了】可以帮助创造一个更为积极和乐观的心态。

14.动起来

可以安排一些锻练，哪怕抓住一点机会快走。做任意让血液流动和更多的空气进入肺部的事。许多人反映在锻练时让人激发灵感和更具创造性。

15.与自然相融

出外走走，置身自然之中（或者深深感受每天那门外发生的点点滴滴），唤起我们与自然的同行。小生物有大智慧，因此我们也会重新懂得感谢，感谢自然。

16.记住简单的事

朋友，家人，免费活动。越简单越好。往往我们记得最好的东西是有钱也买不到的。除了做这些，通过图片、剪贴簿或期刊回忆，让美好的回忆随时调整自己。

17.获得灵感

"享受小事，或许有一天你回头看时，才发现他们是最重要的事。"罗伯特.布鲁特
"事情总是像你想看到的那样。"亨利.马蒂斯
"对自己而言，我是一个乐天派。因为做其他派别看起来并不那么十分有用。"温斯顿·丘吉尔

18.注入激情

放开胸怀。或许你想成为艺术家、冒险家、作家、梦想家、探险家、诗人、体育明星、歌星、漫画、教师、演员，做真实的自己吧。找出心中的梦想去试一试。

19.写下梦想和目标，并多想想实现了时候的感觉

将梦想和目标可视化会带给人积极的感觉，感觉已经几乎实现目标了。你的头脑感觉到胜利，自然创造了乐观和希望的感觉。写下具体的目标，写个愿望板，或写个过程日记，都将有助于这一过程的实现和保持乐观感。

英文原文，摘来供大家学习吧。

Have you ever wondered how some people always seem to see the sunny side of things? How missed flights can turn into adventures, bad directions can deliver them to exciting new locales, lost opportunities lead them to new learning, and unexpected changes in plans leave them feeling more spontaneous than flustered? How does that work, exactly?

Perhaps it's like Henry David Thoreau once said:

"It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see." ~ H.D. Thoreau

The same people tend to see the glass as half full.

Many things in life are open to interpretation. Luckily, we each have 100% control of our own attitude about something, regardless of how much or little control we have over that something itself. With that in mind, here are a few tips to make the bright side shine a little more often in any situation.

1.Count Your Blessings

Make a written (or mental) list of things you are thankful for, from very small to very big and anywhere in between. To really boost your spirits, set a number (like 100) and then just keep jotting everything down til you reach it. It's amazing what the mind remembers when focused!

2.Notice Little Unexpected Things

Pay special attention to things you don't normally "see," like the expression on kids' faces when they're playing, the sound birds are making in the background, or a little breeze.

3.Be Grateful For The Good

Being thankful for what we already have is a tried and true way to feel better. Sometimes we get caught up thinking of what else is out there, when we have so many things to be grateful for at any given moment.

4.Help Someone Else

Helping others takes the focus off our own ego and needs, and helps channel our energy into creating a better world for others. Studies show that helping others has multiple surprising benefits to our health and well-being.

5.Decide To Be Happy Today

This one is easy. Change your lens. Make a conscious decision to see the positive, to be kind to others, to be grateful, and to be nice to yourself.

6.Smile At A Stranger (And Make Two People Happy)

Smiling is another time-tested way to feel more optimistic. Even if you "fake it til you make it," and smile when you don't *really* feel like it, your brain thinks you feel better. People who see others smiling also feel more positive. Win, win!

7.Turn A Perceived Negative Into A Positive (AKA Find The Silver Lining)

Trip cancelled? Now there's time to do that home project you've been wanting to do. Raining on picnic day? Find a creative picnic spot indoors, maybe bring some candles. Challenge yourself by filling in this blank: "One good thing about this situation is __________."

8.Read Positive News

Proactively look for positive stories and news sources that highlight all the good in the world, like these sites for positive news and ideas.

9.Read Uplifting Quotes And Stories

Social media is great for this. Facebook and Pinterest are full of fun pictures; Twitter has a never-ending stream of positive #quotes. Download an uplifting eBook, or borrow one from the library.

10.Set A Small Goal, Then Do It

Pick something easy, quick, and ideally a bit fun. Even small chores work. Make a little list, check them off as you do them, and feel the accomplishment endorphins kick in!

11.Hang Out With Positive People

Being around optimistic people helps you see what they see. Like negativity, positivity feeds on itself, creating more positivity and bolstering that worldview. Surround yourself with optimism!

12.Remember, Almost Everything Is A Choice

You can choose your viewpoint, what you focus on, you reaction to a situation, your attitude toward people and events, and almost anything else. While bigger changes may require more planning and deliberation, they also are choices; you control your destiny.

13.Laugh

The best medicine! Get a little comedy in your diet. Here are 8 ways laughter helps create a more positive and optimistic mindset.

14.Move

Exercise can be structured, but it's also great to just grab a quick walk. Anything that gets the blood flowing and more air into the lungs works. Many people report feeling inspired and even more creative while exercising.

15.Absorb Nature

Getting out and about in nature -- or even focusing more deeply on everyday things you see outdoors -- helps remind us that we're all in this journey together. Seeing the amazing intracies in even the tiniest creatures can help refocus appreciation.

16.Remember Simple Things

Friends, family, free activities. Sometimes simpler is better. The things money can't buy are often what we remember best. In addition to doing them, reminiscing via pictures, scrapbooks, or journals keeps happy memories on tap.

17.Get Inspired
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
"There are always flowers for those who wish to see them." Henri Matisse

"For myself, I am an optimist - it does not seem much use being anything else." Winston Churchill

18.Dive Into A Passion

Let your creative inner child out to play. Somewhere in your mind is that artist, adventurer, writer, dreamer, explorer, poet, sports star, singer, comic, teacher, actor, do-it-yourselfer. Find out what they have in mind and give it a whirl!

19.Write Down Dreams And Goals, And How You Think Achieving Them Feels

Visualizing positive outcomes conjures up positive feelings, almost as well as actually achieving the goals. Your mind feels the win, creating a feeling of optimism and hope. Things like vision boards, writing down concrete goals, and keeping a journal can also contribute to this visionary process and sense of optimism.

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